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Saturday, December 17, 2005
"Oh, you should have seen, they are so sweet together!" My friend gushed with much gusto. I nodded wearily. And she continued rattling about how another couple in school look so compatible with each other. Oh yeah. Did I mention that the girl is so pretty that my friend's guy friend (not the pretty lass' boyfriend, mind you) had once splurged fifty bucks on his first present to the girl? Good grief. I was exasperated by people, not just my friend, who have this irrational concept of relationships: Romance equals to love. And people waste their time endeavouring to be oh-so-sweet-and-romantic to the point when it simply becomes sappy imprudence. Their partners would then feel so pampered and so special that they think they are in love. I know of this guy who buys presents for his three-month girlfriend every month to celebrate uhm, monthly anniversary. Monthly anniversary. When have anniversaries literally become a monthly thing? And so, if they are lucky enough to pass one year together and assuming he spends at least $20 for each present, by the end of that one year, he would have spent a minimum of $240. If he further embellishs his effort to be romantic, the total cost of being (unnecessarily) romantic amounts to an estimated $500. How ridiculous. It's ridiculous enough that he splurges hard-earned money for the wrong reasons. Think monthly anniversaries. It's even more ridiculous that he sees a romantic relationship as an investment of red roses and kisses. He's not the only one. Oh don't they see? Don't they see that a relationship is fundamentally still a friendship? No wonder when these people break up, chances are, they end up not talking. Because the friendship was not deep enough to cushion the collapse of a love relationship. Because all they did during the days of togetherness were red roses and kisses and more red roses and kisses...when what they should be doing was building a firm friendship. I think many people have this tendency to become engulfed by the heat of passion so much so that they eventually forget that such is only but transient. It is only natural that the initial ardour gradually turns cold as two people settle in a relationship. And that is when friendship becomes the essence of love. Your partner is your best friend. You are your partner's best friend. This friendship would weather life's every trial and tribulation and emerge stronger than ever and keep the love going. Not sappy romance. Avril Lavigne sings of this special friendship as thus: Because I've never felt like this before
I'm naked Around you Does it show? You see right through me And I can't hide I'm naked Around you And it feels so right And I think it says enough of what the special friendship really means. Really. Posted by |z|r| at |
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